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posted by Laura "Sko" | 10/11/2008 03:00:00 PM
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- The Hindu Ceremony -
Early in our engagement, Naveen and Laura decided the best way to honor both sides of our families would be to hold two ceremonies. While we wished to combine them somehow, we knew one ceremony had to be in Wisconsin near Laura's family, while the other needed to be held closer to Naveen's home base in Fort Wayne, Indiana. Our biggest wish has always been to involve as much of both our families and friends as possible, maintaining our values, and aiming for flexibility and convenience for everyone.
That said - Laura and Naveen are relying heavily on Naveen's family and friends to help with the planning of the Hindu celebration, following the traditions passed on to them by their relatives. We'll keep you updated on all the plans as we make them!
Current Plans:
6 Comments:
Hey Laura! For Oct. 11, I am working that morning. I can still ask for the day off so I'd like to know as soon as you do what time your wedding will be and if there are any pre-wedding events that day that your friends are attending. Thanks!
Hey Julie! Got your message. I honestly have no clue yet - Naveen's mom is in India and she'll be back next week so I'll be able to ask her details then. I know there is a bride's ceremony and a groom's ceremony (separate and small) that might be at his family's houses beforehand, but it might not be that day (11th). To give you a frame of reference, Naveen's brother Prav got married over Thanksgiving weekend last year and they had those small ceremonies (pujas, or small religious gatherings) the day prior. So ours might be on Friday the 10th or something. Prav and Jenny's wedding was at about 4 in the afternoon with photos starting at 2, so I assume ours may be similar, but I really can't say for sure. I'll get back to you as soon as I can! ;)
-Laura
Hi Laura,
this is so random but i stumbled across this when i searched catholic hindu wedding. my partner and i are considering this for our wedding and i just wanted to know how it turned out having 2 seperate weddings? we are thinking of having it all on the same day, although it seems quite long for our guests. was there anything you would suggest? did anything go wrong? anything you would change? was it costly having 2 weddings? thanks
Hi Miss Mala :-)
For us, having two ceremonies was perfect because we could adequately allow time and thought to both cultures and religious traditions. We have families that are extremely open to each other, but are meanwhile very rooted in their faiths, so we wanted to devote time to each - one date for a Catholic ceremony, and one (or three, if you will!) date for for the Hindu ceremony. Again, I'll stress, that for our purposes, this was perfect.
Trying to do it all in one day was something that we initially wanted to do very much, because then we thought our guests could have a taste of both cultures in one giant happy occasion. While in some ideal way it would have been amazing, we ultimately did not feel it would be fair to ourselves or either family to deal with that much pressure and compromise on such a special occasion.
It should be noted that my husband's older brother got married about a year before us, and his wife also wanted a Catholic ceremony - and they chose to do a wedding weekend beginning with a Hindu ceremony on Thanksgiving Thursday (preceded on Wednesday, the night before, by the initial ceremonies that take place), then the Catholic ceremony on Saturday (with the usual rehearsal on Friday, the night before). It went very well for them, but it was very stressful to plan, and also some guests could not come because of prior holiday arrangements. If you'd like, I can ask my sister-in-law to post how she felt about their wedding to give you more details and a different perspective.
Finally, it is definitely costly having two ceremonies, but the most costly item is your reception, for either wedding. I have heard some couples have two different ceremony dates and only one big reception (either on one of the dates, or a different date entirely). However, if you have guests who can only go to one wedding, and they can not attend a different day for the reception, you may miss out on their presence there. Also, remember that for at least one of the weddings, you would only have a ceremony and then everyone would go home, which just didn't seem fair to us - we wanted everyone who was coming to enjoy not only the ceremony but also a reception to follow.
Hopefully this has been helpful. We tried to stay in-tune to the needs and wants of our guests, but I would recommend bouncing these ideas (and any others you may have) off of your most important guests, like very close family and your very best friends. Try to gain the advice of a very few, close people - but I must stress, stick to the very most important few. Once you start asking everyone, you will be asking everyone on your guest list the same question, and it will become very tiresome and feel impossible to make everyone happy. Don't forget, the most important thing happening is the union of you and your spouse, and however you feel it should happen should ultimately be the way things go.
All the best!!!
-Laura
Hi, Laura,
Not sure if you still check the comments on this site, but I have a similar situation. I would love to email you to ask some questions about your ceremonies. Please let me know if I can. Thank you!
Hi!
I know this is an old post so I hope you get this comment:
How were you guys able to do a Catholic wedding? My fiancé is Catholic and I am Hindu-our issue is that every church we approach is refusing to marry us because I'm not Catholic. Just curious if you guys encountered this and how you conquered it.
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